
Regina pictured on the left in red
Regina W. was born and raised in Washington, DC. Her upbringing was filled with contention and strife, and unfortunately drugs. Her parents had her when they were very young, and her father was not able to handle the stresses of war when he was drafted for Vietnam. He came back a drug user, and that habit eventually spread to Regina’s mother. They separated a few years later but that only intensified the issues she had to deal with on a daily basis. Both parents were in and out of relationships and marriages throughout the years, and the continual changing of adult figures in her life led Regina to act out and seek attention, often in ways that were unhealthy and self destructive. Both of her parents died as a result of their drug and alcohol addictions.
Despite the difficult relationship Regina had with her parents she still remains very close with her three sisters, Brenda, Tracy and Yvette. Her sisters, along with their families and her grandparents have been a great support network for Regina as she has faced the troubles and problems that come along with drug and alcohol addictions. Regina’s troubles started at a young age, getting into drugs and alcohol when she was 9 years old. Quiet and a little bit reserved by nature, Regina turned to drugs and alcohol for the way they made her feel – that she could be anyone or do anything in the world she wanted to. The feeling of confidence and self esteem is something that all people seek out, and when people don’t receive that affirmation of self worth from home it is far too easy to seek it out through other, unhealthy means. Regina didn’t do very well in school, although she excelled in athletics and loved competing against the boys on her street in basketball and other sports, often times getting the best of them. Her athletic endeavors weren’t strong enough to keep her grounded at the time, and she eventually dropped out of school in the 9th grade.
With little education, and an unstable home life Regina turned to selling drugs to make ends meet. This landed her in and out of jail a few times, with one sentence lasting 8 years for trafficking cocaine. Through the ups and downs of life Regina had never really wanted to get clean, until now. Coming to Clean and Sober Streets in April of last year is the first time that Regina has been in a drug treatment program. She was sent there for a 30 day program by her parole officer, and it wasn’t until the last day of that program that she realized that she needed to stay longer. She knew that if she was to make recovery work, to shed her old lifestyle and habits that she needed more time and more support to get herself to a point where she is strong enough to stay clean for good. She always had a place to go, always had family she could stay with but she knew that she wasn’t doing right by herself, or her kids, by the life she was leading. To be the sister, the mother and the friend that she knew she could be would take hard work, time and patience. And so she stayed.
Regina has been to enough AA meetings to be familiar with the stories and themes that permeate the lives of so many people going through recovery. The cycle of recovery and relapse is not something she wants to go through. Her goal is to do it right the first time, because there may not be a second chance. Regina started her process of recovery in the kitchen. Working cooking for meals at Clean and Sober Streets, she was only female cook at the facility and she excelled. Getting her ServSafe certification Regina is now taking on getting her GED. Math has never been her strong suit, but she’s determined to complete the program because she knows how much it will help her as she transitions out of the facility. To her it’s a not a question of doing what is easy and comfortable, it’s about doing what she needs to in order to make a better life for herself and her family.
Another thing she has taken upon herself, despite it not being easy, is Back on My Feet. Just two years before Regina came to Clean and Sober Streets she was in a fight and stabbed 10 times, one wound punctured her lung. Her first thought about the program was that we were not for her. With her previous injury, and her smoking, joining a running program sounded like the last thing she wanted to do. But after a little while she saw the benefits that other members were getting out of the program. Another intimidating thing about the BoMF program is that it was all men. Relying on her childhood memories of besting the neighborhood boys in sports, Regina joined BoMF. Instead of turning to drugs and alcohol for a boost in self esteem she’s able to rely on the accomplishments earned at each morning run, and at each monthly race. Being a part of Back on My Feet shows Regina that she is part of something more, that she has friends and family that care about her and respect the accomplishments she’s worked for. She doesn’t need to act out to receive attention from others, she’s found that with her BoMF family for the good things that she’s done. “Running is something I’m excited about, it’s something different and it’s helped me in a lot of ways.” Beyond the morning runs, she has recently started over at Project Empowerment and is thrilled to be taking charge of her life and her future!
“BoMF is a great idea, the people here show us lots of love. It’s a great opportunity and I would encourage anyone to join BoMF – it’s about what you can do for yourself, to better yourself.” Regina is proud of the progress she’s made, and said that it’s the faith that other people have put in her that makes her feel special and she no longer has to turn to drugs or alcohol for that feeling.