Team: Progress House
Favorite Music: Country
Favorite Movie: Tommy Boy
Bucket List Item: To play on Augusta National
Favorite Quote: “Our lives are better left to chance, I could have missed the pain but I would have had to miss the dance”.
I moved to Indianapolis from Alabama when I was a teenager. I had a fairly normal upbringing, single parent household, a younger sister, went to school, average student, played sports etc. I had my first drink at 17, got sicker than I ever thought possible and swore I would never do that again. An oath I would continue to make years later. Alcohol wasn’t an issue for me in high school or college for that matter. I graduated from college, got a job and started my life. I got married and had two kids. I also developed an addiction to prescription painkillers following back surgery. This addiction cost me my job, my home in Fishers, my wife and the biggest loss, my children.
At this point my family stepped in and I entered The Progress House. This was almost three years ago. I got clean, got a new job and moved out of The Progress House after roughly four months. I was putting my life back together, or at least I thought I was. The truth was that I was only going through the motions. I had the job, I had the girlfriend and I lived in a nice house. I looked great from the outside but I was dying on the inside. Fast forward to a year and a half later, I lose the job and the house of cards I had built was in danger of collapsing.
That’s when I really started drinking. I didn’t want to go back to pills, but convinced myself that drinking was ok. Needless to say, it wasn’t. I spent over a year drinking, lost my girlfriend, the house, my friends and any self respect or respect from others that I may have had left. My bottom was waking up in the ER with a nurse looking at me telling me that they didn’t get many people as drunk as I was in there. I had broken three bones in my hand in a drunken rage. Brick walls don’t lose fights. I had nowhere to go and no one to help me. I called a guy I knew from AA and asked him for help. He gave me some advice and got the ball rolling. I came back to the Progress House and almost 120 days later I am amazed at what’s become of my life.
When I first heard about BoMF, I honestly figured that I could use it as a tool to get back into shape. Nothing more, nothing less. How wrong I was. From the first day this program has become entwined into my daily life. I have utilized it for the weight loss and getting back into shape aspects but also for so much more. It has given me a new set of friends in the staff and volunteers along with my teammates. It has instilled in me a sense of pride that I honestly have never felt, at least not about myself. It has shown me that I am able to commit to something, and if I apply myself and put in the required effort I will receive so much more in return. This program gives to me daily and only asks me to give three days a week. As for my future, well that is still somewhat of a mystery. I am working again and I am continuing to take my sobriety one day at a time. While I may not have a clear picture of my future at this moment, I do know that BoMF will always be a part of it.